BlogRead the Inspirational and Transcending Thoughts of Dr. Shefali
I have just come off the book tour for my latest book, THE AWAKENED FAMILY. 5 cities, some with multiple bookings. Over 20 talks in the past 20 days. Chicago, Boston, LA, Toronto, SF and NY. I have met thousands of parents through this tour and discovered that all of...read more
If there is one fear that is common to most of the parents I have encountered, it is this: “My child is ordinary.” It’s as if they have been insulted, or worse still, rejected in some way. Where does this fear come from? Why is there such a need for us - parents...read more
My conversation with a mother whose son had just died My friend’s son recently died. At a mere 24 years old. His death, like the death of any child would, shook me to my core. Empathizing with the parents in such a situation brings up our own greatest fears: the loss...read more
I am often asked, “how do you balance your busy work-life with your home-life?”
I immediately say, “with great effort, discipline, and focus.”
There is no magic to the eternal balance between work, love, and play.
It is a constantly dynamic and ever-shifting equation.read more
I just spent the last two days in LA at Oprah’s Super Soul Event with the most amazing people ever.
First off being, Oprah herself. There is not much I can add to what you already know her to be, except that she is MORE than all that you know her to be. More real, more relatable, more authentic, more and simply divine.read more
“Be Nice” is one of the most common phrases we say to our kids, especially our young ones. It comes out of our mouth without thought, like a reflexive reaction to our eternal fear that our kids will grow up to be unscrupulous and cruel.
Let’s stop to examine, what “be nice” really means.read more
Every book feels like a birth.
The process is consuming. Intimate, lonely and painstaking. Nothing glamorous about it. Pajamas, coffee, old toast, more coffee, endless doubt, painful angst.
Then, after months of nothingness, something miraculous happens. The seeds begins to sprout. They start to have life, a voice, and a distinct spirit. A relationship is born. And very soon, you begin to dance together.read more
We all know that feeling. That feeling of being punched in the gut by a hundred pound gorilla. Queasy, tremulous and so darn emotional. Our mouth quivers, our chest heaves and our eyes water. Our heart feels like it is going to burst out of our chest wall. The sky rains tears down on us and we feel like we are going to drown in pain.read more
Meltdowns are tough. Tantrums are treacherous.
They are downright life-sucking. They sneak on you without notice and they stay like the plague.
Once they arrive, there is no switch to turn them off. It’s like the aliens have descended and abducted your child’s brain. One moment your toddler, pre teen or teen is the sweetest thing, all cuddly in your arms and whoa, what happened – what did you miss? – you blinked and the torrents descended. Your child transforms from human to monster, from sweetness to absolute wickedness. Arms flailing, tears pouring, voice shrieking – should I say more???read more
Conflicts with our children are inevitable. In fact, they can even be healthy – provided we can learn how to transform them into life-lessons.read more
Our children misbehave. They act juvenile. They scream, yell, tantrum and sometimes even, heaven forbid, steal. They fail their classes, bully others, even, say a choice curse or two. What do we typically do in response?read more
We all know the opposite feeling – the feeling of being validated. We feel accepted, honored and empowered. We have been seen. Our need has been attended.read more